Relationship Boot Camp

Change your relationship from “so-so” to “all-in” intimacy. The Boot Camp is an authorized presentation of Terry’s Real’s workshop and both of us have been trained directly by Terry.

Fee: $550 per individual, $1,035 per couple.


Date: Sat March 25 & Sun March 26, 2023
Time: 9am to 4:30pm PST
Location: The Kimpton Canary Hotel
31 W Carrillo Street, Santa Barbara, CA 93101

Date: Sat April 15 & Sun April 16, 2023
Time: 11am to 6pm EST
Location: Online Via ZOOM

Date: Sat May 13 & Sun May 14, 2023
Time: 9am to 4:30pm PST
Location: Hotel Peery
110 W Broadway, Salt Lake City, UT 84101

Date: Sat June 10 & Sun June 11, 2023
Time: TBA
Location: NYC, Location TBA

Relationship Boot Camp

This 2-day/weekend Relationship Boot Camp offered by therapists Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW can help give you the skills you need to change your relationship from “so-so” to the path of full-throttle intimacy. Includes materials/resources that will be sent to you in advance.

$550 per individual
$1,035 per couple
Payment via PayPal, Venmo or Check

Reconnect, Learn Strategies and Essential Skills

The workshop is open to all individuals and couples. Through a combination of lecture, in-person role-play, small group exercises, and personal work, this live workshop will teach all participants how to:

• be connected and protected in relationships.
• identify the five losing strategies.
• practice the five winning strategies.
• analyze healthy listening and responding skills.
• identify where they get stuck the most with their current or past partner.
• learn new ways, going forward, without being stuck.

Relationship Boot Camp Takeaways


Learn to identify where you get stuck the most with their current (or past) partner and learn new ways, going forward, without being stuck.


Learn skills necessary to teach couples how to assess losing strategies and move to winning ones.


Learn to analyze healthy listening and responding skills, and strategies to be connected and protected in your relationship.


We will help you see that the road forward allows for hope and joy.

Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp
Jerry Sander, LCSW and Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
Cosponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars,
P.O. Box 14473, Santa Rosa, CA 95402

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in and out each day, attended the entire seminar, and completed an evaluation in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out each day will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available. Links to Evaluations and Certificates will be emailed and also available following course completion at

Kristy Gaisford, LCSW is a graduate of Columbia University’s School of Social Work, is a mother of four, and a stepmother of another four. She has been in practice for over 20 years.

Jerry Sander, LCSW is a graduate of New York University’s School of Social Work, is a father of four and has been in practice for 35 years.

Both of us have studied with Terry Real and are certified in his Relational Life Therapy approach to couples’ work. We also are authorized presenters of his weekend Relationship Boot Camps.

We consider ourselves fellow travelers with you on the up and down journey of relationships. We walk the walk; we’ve both been married, divorced, and remarried to other people, cultivating happiness after some rough times. We know what it’s like to feel the exaltation of first love, the heartbreaks and defeat that accompany divorce and the energy it takes to start again. We know what it is like to have children watching you the whole time.

We’ve learned what relational skills we needed to develop, and we practice them — mostly successfully — with our beloveds every day, week, month and year.

We want to share them with you.