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The Partner You Deserve

A few weeks ago, my husband and I had a little spat. And by that, I mean a pretty big argument. Voices were raised, accusations made, and feelings were hurt on both sides.

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Just How Much Intimacy?

Just beneath the surface of the stories a couple offer when they are in couples therapy is the simmering question: just how much intimacy is each person looking for?

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Emerging From Our Screens

Spring is here once again, and this one feels extra special. We get to stop experiencing ourselves, and each other, as square little boxes on a flickering screen and to see what it is like to actually be in each other’s physical presences again.

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Divorce: Why Did I Stay?

I sat on the therapist’s couch with my soon-to-be ex-husband. She looked at me and asked, “why did you stay as long as you did?”

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Why I Told My Divorce Story

Our marriages ended; everything is different. We wrote this post together after we did our Podcast for LoveWork – Skills for a Relational Life.

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When Relationships Disappoint

We are in a constant flux of harmony, disharmony and repair. But if we can keep the disappointments in perspective and not take them as opportunities to blow them out of proportion….we can minimize the damage we’re prone to do to them.

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Divorce After 50

Divorcing after age 50 lands you in a surreal set of social and emotional adjustments. My world exploded in minutes — even though it took decades for the fuse to fully ignite.

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What Happens in a Relational Life Therapy Boot Camp?

Can couples really LEARN to be more relational in a weekend? I wondered that myself, when I signed up for Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy Boot Camp. My wife (my co-adventurer) and I were in equal parts skeptical and willing to find out when we committed most of the entire weekend to find out.

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